Haha you're crazy! It took me a long time to get here, and a LOT of encouragement from the fam here. Also, I've learned how little I like who I was during the first 6mos of this year and how I was a doormat. I'm trying not to be ugly, but I know standing up for myself is paramount. And I know exactly what Sandi means when she talks about tough love.
That is so true and I know it did and I know it was hard. I really think your approach is a good model for the newer DB'ers to follow. I know I took a lot of inspiration from your defense of boundaries. What you say above though is so crucial for newcomers (or currents)to understand...one must realize themselves for themselves - not in context of M, not in context of being a better H or W, but in and only in the context of themselves. Until one does that, there will be no change; not a lasting one anyway.
I like this one: "I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear." - N. Mandela
"There is no more important fight than the one for ourselves. Keep on winning." Ginger1, Read her newbies. BD: Feb '16 D: Mar '17 Piecing: Putting the self back together was my piecing. S6
