I think the primary lesson in DBing is learning about what we can control and how to let go of what we can't control. Once we manage that elusive tool then it can be applied across the board. It makes sense what you're feeling, SH, you have realized that you cannot accept the WAW back but rather someone who has made themselves a healthy, safe person. I think I am starting to get there. I am willing to take back my WH if he shows true remorse and most importantly, the desire to make himself a healthy man. But for now he is doing "more of the same" in a negative way so I am giving myself a temporary reprieve.
M 10yrs T 13yrs BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce April '17-Letting go 2018 D busted DD8, DS6, DS3
