I described it like there was an alien living inside W's skin.
If you can as well you may want to figure out a way so that you don't need to make these calls.
Good advice. I need to work on that.
The Alien ... yes, the flip is really weird. When she was trying to make W work, she was one person, and then as soon as she gave up and decided on a D ... a whole 'nother person. I was totally perplexed how a person can flip so quickly. But I think I understand. Once you make a decision (to divorce), you can stop making an effort to be a good spouse; and in fact you start making an effort to justify your decision to D, and, besides, it's probably a huge relief and feels good to finally let loose all the negative feelings you've had for someone all these years.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
