Keep Wearing Wedding Band?

[AndrewP]

Gump - thanks for the visit to my thread. I had been keeping a bit of an eye on yours too.

I've been very fortunate in that my WW never vented or got angry with me even during the worst times. But what I did see a lot, and is perhaps coming out in your W's calls and reactions is disgust and hatred. Those are tough, hurtful words but it is part of the world that a WW lives in. For us though there were no kids at home and very little to coordinate between us so there were very few reasons for me to contact her. Much of our communication was done via texting - sometimes even when we were on the same floor of the house. We both were flawlessly polite to each other through it all using all our manners that we had taught the kids.

I remember when I told my adult kids that there were serious marital problems and that I was worried that W would leave that I described it like there was an alien living inside W's skin. Thinking of it that way helped me deal with the hatred and disgust that I saw in her eyes. Perhaps that will help the next time she snaps at you.

If you can as well you may want to figure out a way so that you don't need to make these calls or reach out to her. She may feel that you are pursuing her. You and I both know that you are trying to be a good husband and father but that's not who she wants to see you as with her alien eyes.