There is a way out of all of this, believe, I am going through the same as you right now. Actually I am a little bit ahead of you, I just had my settlement yesterday and financially I won big time. I got 4 of our 5 houses plus I am going to see the kids every weekend. I can tell that my wife is softening up and I can even image reconciling at some point in the not too distant future. How am I achieving all of this? Very simple, I stay positive, exercise, and avoid all the negative behaviors that contributed to the decline of my marriage. My wife, together with her lawyer have been extremely negative in the past 7 months, and I can only neutralize that by being extremely positive. I can tell that you are making mistakes and you really have to work on yourself if you want to turn your situation around because your wife at some point will notice. There are still things that you should definitely avoid like lap dances, alcohol, and masturbation. Unfriending your wife on Facebook also was a big mistake that you will regret, and when you try to add her back, you'll look weak and desperate. Don't be angry at her, stay calm and friendly no matter what. There is a good way out of all of this believe me. It's a situation where you are happily divorced, still loving each other, living separately and doing some activities all together with the children as well. Keep smiling my friend, you can turn your divorce around. Hugs.
