My wife walked out 4

[RSG]

Wake up today at 6AM. Look at the phone "Have you talked to his teacher? Also, he should be in new clothes when he goes to bed not what I send him to school in."

I had posted a sweet pic of little guy asleep last night, after he woke up a little cranky and I got him some milk to fill him up. He was wearing the shirt he wore to school, it didn't harm his skin. That was it. 2 major boundaries crossed: 1) Disrespectful communication. I mentioned I didn't care for the way she answered the phone yesterday, calling as she requested, answering with a surly WHAT? and then waking up to instructions/critiques? 2) Challenging my parenting.

I restricted her on Facebook. I have kept it open, because it didn't bother me and I didn't feel any need to do otherwise. Using a picture I posted (of him zonked out, hugging his teddy bear) to send me parenting instructions is ridiculous. When she asked why, I said I didn't care for how you spoke to me yesterday and I didn't like waking up to accusatory texts. She said she was just reminding me, and that she's just "reiterating" things not getting on me. She noticed I restricted her after about an hour.

She said I'm reading into stuff too much, just worried about his sensitive skin. (He's fair skinned like me.) I didn't lash out, I just told her I was communicating how I'm feeling. I didn't get into the depths of it, but it feels like she's trying to control my parenting and to make up for the fact S has really developed a great attachment towards me. It also feels like she's spying on me a little, and that she feels she can speak to me in any way.

She was immediately more respectful and nicer in her communication. We spoke about next week's schedule and looking into a new doctor. She made note that she will be going to Church Sunday again.

I don't like this, but felt like it needed to be done. I guess I know what it means when someone says the feel smothered, because that's how I feel. I'm glad I talked about it w/my therapist before I did anything though. Being able to process my thoughts and bounce them off someone else really allowed me to formulate a plan and know what I'm doing. I guess it means I shouldn't send the email for another few days, as it could be taken as punishment. But, no biggie there. It's needs tweaks anyway!