She didn't really want to go home until she thought another might replace her. My advice is to play this cool. If you tell her you will not date this other girl, I can nearly guarantee that your XF will pull back again. Do not show excitement or eagerness. Tell her you aren't sure about trying again with her.
If she is remorseful, and if she really wants you back.......she should be willing to attend couples counseling, and any transparency you need from her. I would advise you not move in together, until you have attended C and dated each other for a while. The R needs to strengthen emotionally, before living together.
P.S. Thanks for the vote of confidence.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
