Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 2)

[JRuss]

Just a brief, not too-exciting update:

Had been expecting the distancing/pull back since Tuesday AM's amore, and was, frankly, a little surprised not to get it sooner. But it arrived this AM. A much milder version than most previously observed behavior, for whatever that's worth. Just some looking off into space with look on face like "I'm thinking really deep, painful thoughts", avoiding me, sleeping way on outside edge of her side of the bed. I find myself not too distraught by it, though, which is big for me. It was something I expected, it eventually came, I've now observed it, and, at least so far, haven't had any sort of interior collapse.

I'm taking my kids to a Lake in the mountains about 2.5 hours from here Friday, coming back Sunday. Total 180 for me to plan the entire thing, down to booking a place, grocery shopping and packing. Wife is invited but, as of right now, not sure she'll be able to go due, she says, to workload and not knowing if she'll be able to get all of her work done. I've decided to be fine if she comes and fine if she doesn't. We'll see if I can stick to that if she begs off.