Happy Belated Birthday! I'm glad your h at least purchased some gifts for you. I have to agree w/bttrfly...he did take your son shopping, etc. Maybe your h, in his mlc mind, is getting mixed signals from you. Maybe he thought you were just telling him you had plans and didn't want to spend time w/him. It's hard to say what goes through his mind.

As for him distancing himself after the vacation...I'm not surprised. They enjoy family time and then distance themselves for a bit. They need to settle back down and think about things and trust me, he'll come around again very soon.

Try to remember...it's not you...it's him and he's still baking.

BTW, time to start a new thread!

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.