wife of 14 years walks out on her family

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Raul: I don't have time to give the details right now. Basically, I did not think she would pull the trigger and say she would leave (despite the fact she had been married before). So when I said - what do you want a D - she said yes.

That was one of the many times that my strong words and not fully understanding where she was coming from backfired and got me farther from where I wanted to be.

The golden rule is zip your lip.
rule # 2 - don't keep this bottled up. Posting is good - but talk to friends, IC, a life coach, DB coach, etc.

I can give more examples - but not just now.