Well, SH said it wonderfully (really great horse and water analogy)
You want your W back, as we all know, but you only just want it to happen your way.
Here is a big harsh truth You have a 0.000001% chance of it working your way.
Your odds are way better if you take the active advice on obtaining your own life. Even if you don't save it, you the have a life of your own. But a life of your own, where you have male friends, hobbies, are no so enmeshed and codependent is probably the only chance you have to get your W back. You need to be a man who is comfortable in his own skin who's being and livelihood is not dependent on someone else. because that is unattractive.
So, you can just sit here and wait to see if she changed her mind with things as they are, and there is pretty much a nil chance of that happening. Or you can take the advice and do the work and give yourself a shot. Not only your M, but yourself a shot.
