I'd stay dim, but don't pressure your D to go one way or the other. Let her do what she'd like. If your H loves your D (like he says he does?) then it's really a low bar ... for him to pick up the $#@! phone and call her.
Stay strong. I'm trying too.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
