3. Listen to her, validate, do not begin arguments, follow the 37, put my hand on my own balls and know they are mine and not in a mason jar on her nightstand - this does not mean be a dk or a-hole. 4. Do not push her away, but let her know I am self-focused and have my own life.
Mileposts for R: 1. I get through more than 2 days without feeling crushed.
I chuckled when I read the mason jar sentence. Glad W didn't ask what I was chuckling about.
"Do not push her away ..." I find that hard to do. I feel like the more I go dim, the more it feels like I'm pushing her away.
"Get through ..." -- that was good to read. That others find it hard to just have one or two decent days in a row.
The hard things for me is that I'm still very physically drawn to my W. And we're still under the same roof. So just seeing her, smelling her as she walks near me ... just a split second of that can dismantle the strength I feel like I've gathered over a couple of days.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
