From what I have discovered since my W left is she did her grieving for our M while we were living together and I didn't see the signs. She used me as her support as she went through the stages of withdrawing from the relationship. So what I thought we bad times was actually her preparing herself to leave.
Everyone who has a WW please read and re-read what delegate of the LBS's Mr. albac has stated here. This is the truth. This is so true that everyone who reads it should no longer find it possible to view things any other way. I have read this concept a number of times in psychology papers (nothing says you love someone like spending your time reading psychology theories in medical journals to understand them better right? That's a joke.) and numerous internet sites. What albec says is indicative of an MLC and why experts on MLC claim that by the time your W changes into a WW, they are half way through the MLC. It is why in the MWD books, she states that the LBS feels blindsided. It is b/c the one who leaves has been mentally preparing themselves for the moment to leave, and this is why you feel left behind. A+ albec.
Originally Posted By: Surfer
If hey are going on a journey. Let them. Have your own. But be nice. Play fair. Yes you'll get angry. But keep your emotions in check and keep level head. Make yourself and the ones that love you happy. That's it. Time to stop giving too much of a sh!t basically.
I like Surfer's post too - seriously, this is our journey as well. We may not like the methods that released it, but here it is anyway.
"There is no more important fight than the one for ourselves. Keep on winning." Ginger1, Read her newbies. BD: Feb '16 D: Mar '17 Piecing: Putting the self back together was my piecing. S6
