What is your goal in emailing to W? What do you hope to achieve here? I would want to take another look at the tone and approach contained in the email message. If you were in her shoes, how would you receive it? What would be your initial reaction in reading that first draft?
Take a really objective look at it and see if that will bring you closer to your goal here?
I'd be interested in hearing your thoughts and analysis on the above questions.
My therapist asked me the same, I'll try to repeat what I said yesterday. I hope to establish space for myself, to act and live independently of her. Like a single Dad. I hope to show her what life would be like without me and my advice so accessible. To show her that I have no interest in being friends, but I can take care of him and live without her. That I don't need her instructions to raise S.
In her eyes? I'd probably be confused, and wonder what I did. Why doesn't he want to talk to me? Basically the way I felt when she left, but on a smaller scale. Does he really not want anything to do with me? Is he done?
I'm going to have a hard time formulating this I know, but one thing my therapist did say was to stick with I and how I feel. Including YOU would be threatening, and be more of a reaction rather than an expression of how I feel.
Does that help?
Me: 35 W: 32 S: 4 T: 6 M: 4 Physical Separation official: 5/21 Currently: DR/DBing, Focusing on me and son
Cheating on a good person is like throwing away a diamond and picking up a rock.
