Albac broken but pushing forward

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The thing I struggle with he most right now is to stick to my boundaries when she wants contact all the time without seeming angry or mean. I need to find ways to shut it down without seeming cold which is hard because for one I like talking to her and the feeling it gives is that I'm pushing her away even though I know it's the only way to bring her closer.

I have only really been trying this for a week or so now and I feel each day I'm getting better. I never contact her so that is not a problem for me it's just dealing with when she contacts me that is the problem.

This is something I'm going through as well. I've stopped initiating everything, but she KEEPS ON. I feel bothered more than anything. I want to keep all communication to MAJOR incidents w/S, scheduling and anything with money. I'd encourage you to try answering the phone less and less, and to keep conversations short. Say you have to go after 5 minutes, unless it's an actual discussion about something important.

I'm sending her an email tonight or tomorrow to state my boundaries re communication. You can peek in on my thread if you'd like....