Albac broken but pushing forward

[ForGump]

My W has always been quick to chop and change what she wants ... She jumps in and deals with the consequences later ...or never

Wait, that sounds just like my W! Hey have you been messin' around with my ...

Seriously -- I think that kind of personality trait is not that uncommon. I think psychologists call it something like "poor impulse control", and it's prevalent among teenagers but most teens grow out of it, as they develop better control over their impulses.

Anyhow... like I said before... all that communication, IMO, is huge emotional cake-eating. You're giving her an all-you-can-eat emotional buffet, with to-go boxes to boot.