Keep Wearing Wedding Band?

[JRuss]

albac -- I get the part about showing our W's we are ok (seems part and parcel of GALing and 180s, not talking about the R, etc), but the "won't stand for being a friend" part is hard where she's right there in the house with you, and you're still trying to act the part in front of your children. The very act of showing her you're ok often runs, at least for me, smack into my 180 of acting like I'm not completely devastated, because I'm deliberately trying to act happy, which invites cordiality it seems.

I'm an avid reader of sandi's posts, and I really get what she's saying in terms of reclaiming one's balls being key with WW's, but some of her more aggressive suggestions just don't seem to work where you're living together.

Have you been able to find a way of balancing these two goals?

(I hope this isn't a thread jack but thought it might be useful for ForGump, too, since our sitches differ a bit but are really similar in a lot of ways).