I just meant I know I have until xx day so I will take until xx day. I'm not in a rush to get around to it. Kind of the same mentality as the bills. As long as they're on time I don't worry about it.
W:32 M:26 T:5 yrs M: 3 yr BD: JUN 2016 W Moved out: early JUL 2016 W Filed for D: mid JUL 2016 EA: 06/16? PA: 07/16 Moved in w/ ow: 07/16 D final: 10/16
It's so hard. I struggle between I don't want to seem uncaring because if I didn't care I would just say f*** it whatever and walk away. But I also don't want to do too much. The problem is cutting back on some of the stuff I do for her is hard for me because I LIKE doing those things for her. But in the end I think she needs to realize what "privileges" come with the relationship and that she can't expect me to do those things anymore.
W:32 M:26 T:5 yrs M: 3 yr BD: JUN 2016 W Moved out: early JUL 2016 W Filed for D: mid JUL 2016 EA: 06/16? PA: 07/16 Moved in w/ ow: 07/16 D final: 10/16
I know. I'm working on it. I haven't spoken to her at all in 2 weeks and I haven't seen her at all in 3 weeks.... I made it to the beach....alone. And I know it will be nice to have some R&R but right this second it feels very lonely.
W:32 M:26 T:5 yrs M: 3 yr BD: JUN 2016 W Moved out: early JUL 2016 W Filed for D: mid JUL 2016 EA: 06/16? PA: 07/16 Moved in w/ ow: 07/16 D final: 10/16
You have been doing great...I'm only on day 3 of NC and I'm stuggling...:) I'm sure it feels lonely...I can't imagine going to where we used to go alone...you are one strong lady!!
W:42 M:48 T:9 yrs M:1yr BD: Feb 2016 EA Confirmed: Feb 2016/PA July 2016 D: Feb 2017
thanks. I'm trying really hard to be strong through all of this. And I just keep telling myself to work on me and everything will happen the way it's supposed to when it's supposed to. I'm using this time to try to detach more.
W:32 M:26 T:5 yrs M: 3 yr BD: JUN 2016 W Moved out: early JUL 2016 W Filed for D: mid JUL 2016 EA: 06/16? PA: 07/16 Moved in w/ ow: 07/16 D final: 10/16
enjoy the beach, get a tan!!! (do you tan or burn? lol I'm Hispanic so i tan / burn / brown)
random though here, if our W's are out and keeping busy, how in the heck are they supposed to reflect and miss us / want us back? I know my W is so busy with school. & friends take up her spare time, I don't see how this will work out when she puts so much energy into everyone else.
Well my W is not missing me cuz she has a OW that is keeping her occupied.... Hopefully she will realize this OW is not so perfect and she will remember our life together eventually.....just keep being the people our spouses would be a fool to leave. Keep working on us!!
