W has "convinced" me to go to MC together. She has also agreed to not contact other men and is for transparency with our phones and accounts. Funny how all of this works when DBing properly. I told her: there is a lot of work to do. We need to be ready for bumps in the road and be able to work through them. We can't run away everytime we have a problem. She asked but how will we know if we aren't going to work out? I said: if we ended up at this point again, our worst, that I wouldnt imagine much of a future for us. I'm not going to be in a R that involves breaking up over and over. We need to make a plan and make changes to have a better life with each other. I'm not as concerned with the future as I am with living life fully right now. I know you are scared and you worry lot, but let's just take care of what we need to and live. ...
I feel like a stronger man than I ever have going through this process. I had read a series of articles on husbandly leadership that helped at first (all which agrees with DBing ideas). I also read one of Eckhart Tolle's books which help me gain understanding and compassion for others that I lacked...But this site/community really breaks down personal growth and troubled relationships into invaluable and practical advice. I can't say thank you enough to Michele and the community for all of the gems and support I found here. I will definitely keep posting here. I'm sure I will need to make plenty of adjustments as I go. On to the next step!
