With time, it gets more complicated

[bigybiz]

Melo: You are breaking through to the other side and are an inspiration. There is lots of good advice here and I know you will use it. The only thing I can add is be consistent. Stick to dates, times, etc. Show her and yourself that you are fulfilling the commitments you made. Most importantly, if you are moving away from her even at a snails pace - keep moving away. The second you slip back to her from attention, R talk, arguments, etc - she has you where she wants you.

Develop a path for yourself and stay on it. If she decides she wants to come meet you on your path great, if not - it's her loss.