- a majority of couples survive the A rather than going on to D.
- a majority of couples who do survive an A state that their M is "stronger and more committed" as a result.
- women having A's have been increasing since the 1970's and are coming closer to men in their statistical likelihood.
- Infidelity is always a choice
- Monogamy is not a universal concept accepted by all cultures and even more unique in the animal kingdom.
- The effect of an A can be negative, neutral, or positive to all parties involved.
- Jealousy is both biological and socially constructed.
- Most individuals who begin an A will not be able to take the AP relationship beyond the initial first phase of a relationship.
- Over 50% of A last less than 1 year, over 40% last less than 2 years, and the remaining 10% last less than one year or greater than 2.
- If an M is without honest communication that is ongoing the likelihood of an A increases.
- Over 1/3 or 1 in every 2.7 couples will experience an affair. The number is high enough to qualify A's as normal events in one's life.
- No couple can fully understand an A by solely looking at their R. The contributors extend into the biological, psychological, and sociological.
- Narcissistic individuals are more prone to engaging in an A.
- People who begin A's tend to rationalize their behavior and will either ignore, deny, or appear to not care about the negative consequences.
- Research shows that the wayward spouse is capable of loving the LBS while maintaining a romantic attachment to someone else.
- Most A's begun by women take place in the first few years of M if they feel dissatisfaction with themselves, their lives, and the M.
- Polls show that 90% of M couples disapprove of affairs, yet over 1/3 of them will still participate in one.
- Having children increases the likelihood of an A.
So again, these came from different places. Don't have to agree or disagree. Just putting the information out there for consumption.
"There is no more important fight than the one for ourselves. Keep on winning." Ginger1, Read her newbies. BD: Feb '16 D: Mar '17 Piecing: Putting the self back together was my piecing. S6
