New and going through a Hybrid Seperation

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I had my first DB Coaching session. It was very good. I wanted to share that in my situation, because of my destructive behavior of completely shutting down after an argument for a period of time that Going/Attempting Dark would not be the best strategy for me. Because my W would think more of the same in my situation. Rather, my 180 should be lovingly detached with my interaction. If I do the opposite of who I was it may create conflict in my W mind but if I do the same it will only validate her decision. Meaning don't go out of my way to avoid or NC, but be there for her in a loving detached manner. Also, as the all the advice from the board, is that GAL would be my best way to show that my life has progressed and that my W will notice.

Be sure you are reviewing and studying cadets homework about detaching. It is a most misunderstood term here.
Loving detachment. What is it that you understand that to be?
Right now your thoughts and words show your thoughts and actions are with her filter on and with expectations for her feelings and actions.
Any actions you take with expectations of her, is an action misguided.
Pay attention to sandi2.
Read, study, read again the homework for detachment. And then seek additional material for detachment. This is key for your progress.
Know the why behind the what. Know that detachment is an action. Not a simple destination.

Keep seeking out answers for moving forward. You can do this.