That said, we got physical this AM (she initiated). This was much less awkward and weird than at the beach. Trying to stay detached and not pursue, which would be a 180 for me. I usually would have tried to follow up to consolidate some sort of relationship gain/improvement by talking about our R or some such or just done a lot of texting and/or e-mailing in a bid to stay connected. I'm expecting some distancing this evening when we get home from work and hope not to let it get me down.
JRuss, I think you're handling this perfectly. It would be a very well timed 180 and I think you're setting your expectations appropriately so that you don't revert back from the 180 when she gets home.
I also agree on the small number of human males that are better fits for our Ws. I don't think our Ws fully grasp their extensive list of requirements. Guess it's a grass is greener thing.
Regardless, you're approaching today's 180 spot on from what I can tell. Keep at it brother!
Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18
One sometimes painful, sometimes humorous reality of my experience is that I frequently get cheesy '80s rawk ballads stuck in my head that, in all of their hairband silliness really seem to hit things dead on, at least in that moment.
Today's song (and big assist from Surfer for getting it pinging around inside my head): Cindarella's classic "Don't Know What you Got (Till Its Gone).
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)
Surfer -- reading between the lines of your post, that's the essence of becoming a man only a fool would leave, isn't it? They may be fools, unfortunately, but ultimately that will be their lasting problem, not ours.
lt0402 -- handling anything perfectly in all of this would be a first for me. Two years of bumbling around like a cliche. Ouch!
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)
Surfer -- reading between the lines of your post, that's the essence of becoming a man only a fool would leave, isn't it? They may be fools, unfortunately, but ultimately that will be their lasting problem, not ours.
lt0402 -- handling anything perfectly in all of this would be a first for me. Two years of bumbling around like a cliche. Ouch!
You and me both bud! Perfect seems to be out of reach for me at the moment, so I hear you there, but I think you are spot on with this approach. It does almost feel like we are starring in a reality tv show sometimes with the over the top stuff that happens. Maybe we need to shop a DB based reality show to a network or TMZ. I see dollar signs!
Keep chugging along JRuss, it might not seem like it but sounds like you are in a good place with yourself!
Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18
Hilarious DBTV, get the guy on the case. I am sure MWD might do a better job. I think our version might resemble Wayne's World given the lack of real qualification and 'Rocking Out' to Cinderalla. Then again, could be worse, could have been Bon Jovi - although technically this could be an improvement...IDK. I get the hearing meanings in 80's Ballards - feeling the pain and thinking wow these guys really get it. My latest are Tina Turner (Let's Stay Together) and ABC (The Look of Love) - I feer there is no hope anymore....LOL.
M46/W40/D8/S6/T20/M12/Separated 6/2016,W takes kids Issues2009 Wpartying w/g.f's2013on EA2013PAdeniedWleavesMBR ImeetAP/EAhalts VariousBDDates MFCourse WSpew EAresumes I halt Wrages DBIng4/2016
Because I had the distinct thought/feeling this AM while driving to work that I don't really recognize my W, at least in terms of the woman I knew for the first 19 years or so after meeting her, today's song: Skid Row's timeless classic "I Remember You".
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)
