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[Irish M]

Hi Job
no problem for the hi-jack. Open discussion is welcome.

Cld, I understand your point of view and your choice. I feel you are trying to convince me to do the same. Sorry I won't do that. Not sure if you read my entire sitch . My XW (I like writing that for some reason) has been very manic and abusive to the girls in the beginning and have neglected them ever since BD. My choice to move on is and has been fed by XW's actions more to my girls than to me.

I am now myself and where I will be in 2 - 3 - 5 years is up to me. Who will I be with, I don't know and I won't focus on it. I only know I will be happy.

The thing is - in 6, 12, 24 months - we have no idea how things may unfold and we may not want to wait for ever or reconcile. She may not come back and you may want to look for another woman. It is best not to promise stuff like this as your kids could feel let down further down the line - he told us he would wait for ever and never look for another woman and now he has...

100% agree Sotto, I don't fill my daughters heads up with hope. Hope of something we can not guarantee. All I can do for my girls is love them and be there for them. My XW will have some sort of relationship with the girls one day. Empathy usually kicks in around 21 - 23 years old. My girls will then maybe reach out to her. What that relationship will consists of is up to her and the girls. If it's anything like the relationship my XW had with her mom.. It will be sad

my D13 will be 14 this weekend .. another party to plan.. :-)