Great example, she has stopped taking care of the puppies altogether. On the days she was "supposed" to have them, I have not been able to get any "day care" for them so there has been a few accidents. When W found out she indicated "the puppies were pooping all over the place". Should I apologize, nope, out of my control in the near term. Did I apologize, yes. Feel like it was a mistake.
Dogs take dumps on the rug, especially puppies, you are not really angry, just disappointed by what you already knew would happen coming true. Its your rug, she left. You may be insinuating the wrong question - may I propose are the dogs worth keeping at this time? They are puppies - puppies are adorable, they have a strong chance of being loved by someone else. Is this the right time for you to adopt animals? Can you be there for them, give them a good life? I had to ask the same about my dog, which is really my WW's dog. He does not really even like me, he tolerates me. I feel the same about him, but he is 8 and he is really not that charming. He took multiple dumps on the rug of my new apartment when I first moved in. I was ready to get rid of him and WW said she loved him, but was in no place to care for him. I knew he would not be adopted so I resolved to do a better job of caring for him and so far its been good and no dumps on the rug since I took action with my choice. I realized, it wasn't about the dog - yeah, her dog, yeah, she bails so burden on me, yeah sht on the rug...it was about me making a choice and my choice was that even though I don't really like this no personality, uninteresting dog, I was not able to take him to his medically initiated death so I chose to give him a better life - that was me, my conscience. Main point - you have choices here NVBH. Its not about your WAW who was "supposed" to have them, its not about you apologizing for a a young animal who cannot control its own bowels all day, its about you - she left two month ago. Make a choice on these puppies, its your choice. I'm not swinging a 2x4 here man, or not trying to at least, but seriously, your post ended with a story about animals left alone because neither you or your WAW are able to care for them and your concern was over whether or not your WAW was upset about them shtting in the house. Sorry man, my dog is dull, but I decided he is my dog - know what I mean?
"There is no more important fight than the one for ourselves. Keep on winning." Ginger1, Read her newbies. BD: Feb '16 D: Mar '17 Piecing: Putting the self back together was my piecing. S6
