Awkward situation

[Tate]

180s are a tough call for me. I think I'm a reasonable person, but by all accounts my wife thinks I'm a jersey that criticizes her and doesn't respect her.

So, I've been doing 180s based on how she perceives me. For example, she complains about me spending too much time outside on weekends working on "unnecessary" projects. So, I've purposely stopped all projects. This gets me inside for more time with the kids, but it obviously doesn't get things done. When she wanted to borrow the suburban, I pointed out that she has a bike rack in the garage for her car that needs assemblying.

I'm doing both 180s in how I act as well as showing her how much she takes me for granted...and complains about me taking time to do things for the household.

The GAL is also difficult...a big complaint if my wife is that I did not do enough with the family. So I've been trying to spend as much time together as possible. Early in this process, her response was that she felt smothered...yep, she complained about getting what she asked for. So, is GAL doing things on my own in the evenings...wouldn't this reinforce her complaints?