Hi sr, when an A is outed is a volatile time, and if he is saying he wants to come home, he is conflicted still. If him having an A isn't a deal-breaker for you, I do think there is still hope. However, it is important that you have clear boundaries on what is and isn't okay for you. If he does approach you and offer to end the A, you can be ready to lay out your non-negotiables, which normally include a NC letter to AP and transparency with devices, whereabouts etc

However, he may not approach you and if he doesn't, I would carry on with dimness - assuming you've already let him know that you won't be in a R with him if he is involved with OP.

I'm sorry for this turn of events. It's so hard and we just need to put one foot in front of the other and start moving forward. I promise you that, however things unfold, your life will get better going forwards.

Take care my friend :-)

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