Get a spray bottle and fill it with cold water. Spray her in the face when she crosses your boundaries.
Rofl! I needed that laugh, thanks!
I can depend on Doodler to give me at least one good laugh a day.
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I started to clean up and fall into the same old patterns of catering to her tantrums.
I would say to start with the catering to her tantrums. I hate to say it, and don't tell the other women I said so.......but, a lot of wives have done things like this for a long, long time. Of course, there are a few of us that never do. We use other methods. (JK)
Anywho......your W acts like a spoiled child who doesn't get what she wants and throws herself down on floor, screaming & kicking. Don't you hate seeing kids act this way in public? I want to walk over and tell the parent what to do to permanently stop the fit throwing.
You need to know how to stop your W from throwing fits. And, just as with spoiled kids, you don't get her to do it by catering to her. First of all, you have to let them see who is in charge. As long as the fits work, they are the one in charge! Of course, you can't spank a grown woman (although, we did have a H who reported that he spanked his WW......, I wouldn't recommend it).
I would start by ignoring her and going about my business, GAL, or play with the kids, get in the car and take a long drive......do anything but give her the attention (or her way) the trantrom intended to receive. Do not try to comfort her, and don't validate. She should not be rewarded in any way for that type of behavior. Do not behave as if you are her employee.
WW's want the best of both worlds.....the one with family, and the one that is pure fantasy. My advice is to stop giving her the guy who has played Mr. Nice Guy. You know, the one she wipes her feet on?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
