Yes I have read cadets link, and just reread it now. The consequences is the hard part. I have been advised not to leave the MBR and not to separate myself. So I am trying to think of something else, like not watching the kids anymore? That seems like punishing the kids and myself more than a consequence for her. Limiting contact even further would be easy if we were separated, but in the same house? Any suggestions? If it gets really bad, obviously I'm going to leave. But I think her knowing that may cause her to intentionally cross those boundaries to get what she wants.
