LOTS more to share, but have been too busy to get on here and journal. Which isn't all bad. I went from almost nothing to do, to having way too much to do. It was just me wandering through life aimlessly, no projects, no home. Now I am spending a lot of time trying to knock down the hay fields that xW left behind, she literally didn't mow most of the lawn all summer, only mowed part once. I have probably 5-10 acres to mow, and many hours into it already. With it so tall, 3 passes over it and it still doesn't look quite like a "yard" again.

There is a list of things xW took from the house that she wasn't supposed to. Some things are clear in the D decree. Some are just her being greedy. It has been listed through atty's.

I picked up the kids from xMIL one day last week. xMIL as usual looked bitter. xW's brother's kids were in the back seat, and wouldn't even look at me, except out of the corner of their eye. I waved and tried to get their attention, they gave a little wave, but looked like they were about to cry. I looked up at xMIL and she was glaring at me, just p'd off at the world. I am sure she was telling the kids to not look at me, another time the cousins asked if they could get out and say hi to me, xMIL said "Heck no." My kids got in with me, I asked what was wrong with their cousins. They said they didn't know, but my son proceeded immediately to vent about how xMIL was bad mouthing me all day, saying "your dad has caused you and your mother so much pain." WTF? "I" caused them pain? How is that? xW's actions are what did this. I recorded the conversation shortly after it started.

Ironic, my son told me one day, and my parents another day, that all xW does all day is play on her phone when with the kids. During this conversation that S11 was telling me about xMIL bad mouthing me, S11 said that xW and xMIL say that I never do anything with the kids, I just play on my phone all day. I asked S11 how they would know what we do together, he said "they don't, they just keep making up these lies." I asked if he felt that way, he said absolutely not.

Same conversation, S11 tells me xW's POM drinks beer while driving, with my kids in the vehicle with them. Nice!

This was all sent from my atty to xW's atty. He avoided facts, made crazy accusation (like I listed in my previous post), but didn't address anything directly.

This whole thing is really getting old. An eternal pi$$ing contest that is costing us tons of money.

I can't say enough good things about GF. She can't say enough good things about me. Our connection is amazing, we say what the other is thinking more often than not. I can read her like an open book. I never would have thought it was possible if I weren't experiencing it right now. I know there will be plenty of people reading this, doubting the authenticity, saying it's the "honeymoon period" and all that. But that doesn't explain how perfectly we compliment each other, finish each other's sentences, know what the other is thinking with perfect clarity. We joke about how we feel bad that most of the people in the world have never and will never experience something as incredible as we have.

Our families are both very excited for us. GF's family sees her glow, sees us together and how we get along, and are very happy for her. My family, most of them met her for the first time on Sunday, and are happy to see me happy, with someone better than xW ever was.

It is actually a little bit sad, xW spent a lot of time with my family, did things with my nieces/nephews even. My family treated her well, but I don't think she ever fit in for some reason.