A new thread for Eye-Tie

[EyeTie]

glad you posted ET, was wondering just the other day, how you were!

big high five on letting life open up for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thank you, the biggest obstacle in losing your spouse is also losing your best friend. That was the hardest part for me. Her and I were best friends for a few years before we started dating. But thanks to GAL, I have made several new friends. Life rocks!

So glad you posted with an update. I am very happy that you are consistently doing well in your new relationship and with your children. It's nice to hear this. Some one said that we have a choice post BD to wallow in misery or choose to be happy. Lots to be said for that. Why is the choice for happy harder though? Makes no sense.

"How badly I wanted to reconcile with someone who wasn't worth my time"

You know, I share this sentiment regarding any spouse that cheats. No one should put up with that.

Take care and loved hearing from you!

It's like the saying goes, "I don't want to waste my time with someone who only wastes my time." Took me a while to realize that, but yeah....

How are things going for you, Julie?

I really believe she has a mental disorder and its sad to see her spiral the way she has.

Can you elaborate on the reasons why you believe she has a mental disorder?

I've had similar intuitions but I push back on myself because... well, it would be too easy to rationalize a bad marriage that way. Would like to hear your point of view.

My wife's entire immediate family are all on one form of mood stabilizers or another. Her Mom, Dad, Brother and Sister all take something, be it anti-depressants or medication for bi-polar. Nothing against those who take things to better themselves btw. My wife was on antidepressants for years, then after my D was born she decided to take herself off of them. She has constant manic attacks, where she could be happy about life then 2 minutes later, laying in bed for hours. There was never a middle, just extremes. And since our split, she has gone out of her way to try to make me look bad. One minute I will get a "You are such a great father" text and the next I will get a call from someone who said that the WW told them I am abusive towards my kids.

And roll into all of this, she never had any forsight in life. Everything was "here and now", which is how our split up happened. I know she regrets it, but she will never admit it to me (or anyone). And now, because she finally realizes that I am over it and done, it just makes her angrier, because people no longer listen to her when she says "He wants me back!".

It's sad really. I do believe we could have saved our marriage, I do believe we dealt with tougher issues, I do believe that it could have been salvaged. BUT truth be told, I am happier now than I have been in a LONG time.