I don't mean to offend anyone,but to put this a bit bluntly, I'm looking for experience advice from someone who has some insight into a scenario like this and is NOT separated or filing for divorce. This is a divorce busting site, yet it seems the majority of people on this board are not succeeding at stopping their divorces.
Tate - I had this exact same rant a while ago. I felt that I was here looking for help and that all I would get was the same platitudes from people who were failing in their own efforts.
Getting hit by a 2X4 hurts and yes, many of us swinging them are amateurs. That's the nature of a peer support group - most of us are in the same mud pit as you trying to find the way out. If we knew the way out we wouldn't be here.
If you are looking for some good SOLID help then contacting Christy to get some proper coaching is a good idea. I know that I ended up taking a break from the forum for a while because my head was ringing too much and my wallet too thin for coaching.
The forum DOES have a number of redeeming features though. The biggest one for me is knowing that I'M NOT ALONE. There are others in this mud pit too who are fighting the same fight. Most of us mean well but remember too that we are also dealing with anger and frustration so our 2X4 swinging might not be aimed at what you think is the right target.
Since then, and burning out a very well meaning friend with my drama, I've come back and am working on "paying it forward" to the community here and reading how others are coping while the slow grind towards an uncertain future continues.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
