I just read Sandi2's posting on WW. Part of the posting was that there doesn't need to be a OM but if its in your mind it still a WW situation.This really resonated with me. My W who I currently believe has no OM or an EA. However, I think part of this wanting a S is that she enjoys/fantasizes about the idea of having a new relationship and get the emotional (physical) satisfaction she craves.
Yesterday, we talked about how to do the most optimal transition of who would take care of the time. I suggested because I will in the family home, I can have the kids all school nights and in exchange we can split the weekends 2 for her an 1 for me. She told me that it may be selfish, but she didn't want to give up an extra weekend. The other item is her now fixation on her looks (after dropping weight), and the talk about maybe one day meeting someone new.
All this with not even wanting to go to MC and try to salvage our M or family unit. I am a belief now this S, while its going to kill me, will be good, because the time apart I can detach, GAL, 180, and can't eat her cake. I hope whatever phase this is she will miss me/family and see the grass isn't always greener.
