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1) I have no proof whatsoever that ther was an EA

Really? I swear you had found something. You just suspected something? Is she regularly on her phone?

If there's actually not an EA, then thats good!

2) my W does go out with her girl friends and one of those friends likes to go clubbing and my W goes along with her

So to answer, yes, she is still going out regularly? For a while there, it was like every week or two. Are you finding yourself as a regular babysitter?

3) she was stacking money away she might still be for all I know I do not think that she is but I would not know if she was putting some away each week or month I guess it comes down to trust.

Maybe Im crazy, but how can you not know if she is stacking away money? You dont see her paychecks/statements? What about the huge sums of money that you found before?

I guess I am afraid to make new friends I do not want to live away from my children my W my family and I am scared that I could meet someone and this would complicate things further

Ghost. Come on. This makes no sense.

Youre afraid to make new friends but you could meet someone else? If you love your wife, then thats it. Why does making new friends interfere with that at all? Look, theres a clear line between having a new friend thats a girl and finding yourself in the obsessed/EA phase. To stop doing any kind of GAL because of this worry is ridiculous.

So now what kind of GAL will you DO??