I'm so sorry to hear that sr - I have been there too and I understand how that feels. Please keep posting and do take your time in thinking about how you want to move forward here.

For now, I would look after yourself and process things. Also, do have a think about boundaries. If an A is ongoing, I would suggest to reduce any interaction with him to coparenting. Pleasant, minimal and he doesn't get to spend time on your couch sipping wine and chatting - but that's JMHO.

Did he disclose the A to you directly, or did you find out about it another way?

((((Big hugs to you))))

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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus