Have to keep making the changes

[Sotto]

Ghost, even though you may not want to move out - and that's your choice of course - the work needs to be done.

Given all circumstances, this isn't time to rely on your W to be your best friend....who needs best friends who are cold and distant? This is time to work on feeling complete within yourself and not dependant on your W for completeness. I think it is possible to do this work whilst remaining in the same house - not easy, but possible.

So, how can you start moving forwards? What goals can you set to become more complete and independent, happy within yourself? Remember, this isn't about what your W is doing or what she chooses. This is about the man you want to become and how you choose to grow in challenging circumstances...