Newcomer, anniversary

[RSG]

Brother, my wife was a helicopter parent. She didn't just have to know what our boy was doing, she had to be with him at all times. She was a great Mom. I called her Supermom.

She spent 6mos leaving him every night from 5-8 with me. Every weekend, she'd spend all day talking to and meeting up with inappropriate people. She'd get trashed. Refuse to play with him at the park. Scream at him because he didn't go to sleep an hour early because she "had to" leave. She didn't care. It's gotten slightly better since she left, but over the last 2 weeks she's had him overnight for 2-3 days. When he runs into my arms to give me a big bear hug, she gets jealous. He used to be a big Mama's boy, and it made me smile and laugh. Now he's all about Daddy.

These WWs are so selfish, they put away everything that matters. They basically have to relearn what matters vs what's a distraction or what's toxic.

It's made me angry, seeing how little effort she puts into him now. Even though it's getting better, during the few times we've spent together I'll see her engage a little and then stuff her face into her phone and he plays with me. It's hard, because you know the kid still loves them just as much as before. It's also hard to put more and more of your energy into being #1 for the kids, and less into wondering why/what the W is thinking.

Enjoy the time with your kids. They won't forget it, and neither will you. My boy is exhausting. He's also my greatest therapy, fun, loving and an adventure. My relationship with him is off the charts. And for that I'm so very thankful!