Newcomer, anniversary

[CT1118]

NVBH, I just read your story. I am going to begin with my sentiments that you have to be here. Next I will ask you a valuable question that was asked of me when I first got here a month ago...did you read all of the homework that Cadet gave to you in his initial post? Have you bought and read the DB/DR books? If not, get to work. Further advice I was told, don't let your WAW know you are here and don't let her find out by accident.

Now, what Cadet was referring to, and you will understand this when you begin your reading, is that all WW's and WAW's tend to fall into some type of predictable pattern. Sure, everyone's story has some slight variations, but for the most part the similarities are astonishing. So when Cadet mentions its part of the script, he is pointing out that what your WAW is doing by ignoring the kids is not only not uncommon, it is predictably normal. There is a lot of reading to do - get going and get educated. Does not mean don't post while you read, it means don't rely solely upon our comments for your help. Learn about GAL too, you have yet to mention that and what you are doing.

FWIW, I did not acknowledge my anniversary last month and neither did my WW, and it does not matter, you can't celebrate what ain't there my man.

Lastly, we are not "experts", this is a support group with people in various stages of M's gone bad - some have rebuilt the R's, some have moved on, most are in limbo, but all of us are trying to be better...welcome my friend.