Hi qt4. You asked about my experience. I will sum it up.
She moved out of the marital bed in June and we lived together until October of 2012. The worse 14 months of my life. She cooked dinner served me every night and sat next to me to eat as if all was normal. At 1 point I asked for her to stop cooking for me. It was a stranGe time in my life. We were best friends for 25 years.
You asked about finances. It all worked out differently than she or I expected. She was very angry that I did not end up on the side walk. She actually wanted me to move away from town. Instead I kept the house and our 401 k were equalized in my favor. That really pissed her off. No child support because she makes a lot and she would have have paid me alimony which was the same in child support.
I have not seen or had contact with her since she moved out. I see my daughter often.
The pain will go away. It took me some years. On occasions I still can believe what happened.
In the end it will all work out. Last year I remarried a wonderful woman. Money is tight but I make work.
Be good to yourself
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
