Newcomer, anniversary

[NVBH]

I decided not to respond to the vast majority of points even though I wanted to desperately.

My thought process was, "why argue perspective when there is not way I can, or want to, change it?" Heartbreaking but necessary.

Left it at this: "There is no way I could completely understand what you went through, I am sorry. What I saw was the pain and I was, and am, "broken" and devastated I could not do anything to stop it. Call it ego, stubbornness, stupidity and.or anything else does not change the fact of where we are and the relationship, with you and the boys, should have been placed above everything at all times."

Trying to remember the "mantra", does anyone know it??