Absolutely not. It's like a car wreck...you may be in the right, but you still want to avoid wrecks at all costs.
So what is your goal? To have a happy marriage or to avoid "collateral damage"?
To add to your analogy, sometimes your car gets some minor dings and dents, but you just keep driving it, not being able to justify the repair costs. But eventually, you get into a crash, and require extensive repairs and the car comes out looking new again. Of course, you arent going to TRY to crash, but sometimes, it happens, and it works out for the best.
Have you read DR and gone through the process of goal setting? What are your "30 foot putts"?
Originally Posted By: Tate
My wife and I get along great in daily interactions, but she swears she will never want to work on our relationship, get close to me, or love me again.
How can you two have an effective relationship when there are 3 or 4 people in it? The advice is focused on your sister, because you cannot improve things with your W until the other people are out of your relationship.
Originally Posted By: Tate
I don't mean to offend anyone,but to put this a bit bluntly, I'm looking for experience advice from someone who has some insight into a scenario like this and is NOT separated or filing for divorce. This is a divorce busting site, yet it seems the majority of people on this board are not succeeding at stopping their divorces.
You probably wont offend anyone, but I think it is an extremely limited view. The value should be on the process, not on the results. I could have DB'ed 100% perfectly and still gotten divorced. There is nothing I can do or could have done to control my ex's thoughts. Does that mean Im not qualified to provide my thoughts to you? If you choose not to want my opinions, fine, Im more than happy to leave you to it.
