W still at home, how to proceed?

[sandi2]

Your W wants an open M, and you don't want an open M. She has already told you she is not going to end her male contacts. She has made it very obvious she is not interested in having another one of your "talks".........and we have told you that talks, at this point, do not work. So, why do you insist doing What doesn't work?

Friday night she says she would like to sleep in our bed and be close, but not have sex as that is moving too fast

Can you not see that she is eating cake? IMHO, this was the time you could have stated a boundary.

I've been helping out cleaning and taking care of the kids. I had just washed dishes Saturday night which she thanked me for. Lastnight she threw a tantrum over dishes and house work not being done. She stormed out of the house and stayed out for a short time. She could have asked for help, but she decided to make it into a bigger issue.

And how did you address her bad behavior of acting like a spoiled bratt? Let me guess......the same way you addressed her plopping back into the marital bed.

You may think all of that was funny, but I don't. She clearly runs the show around your place. Forget having more talks with her and start doing something that is effective.........like having boundaries.