Have to keep making the changes

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Thank you once again I am listening to you I just am trying to understand what I need to do to move forwards.

G, what are you doing to understand the advice you are being provided?
Have you been reading DR?
Have you been working with a DB coach?
Have you put into practice what so many here are advising that you do based on the DB principles?

How long are you going to stay in one place trying to understand what you need to do to move forward before you take a step?
You can stay put forever if you don't simply take one step at a time.
DBing is not doing what you feel is best or comfortable. It is counterintuitive. Many here share how it has saved them by following the principles.
Sandi2 has shared advice about in house separations.
RD continues to share the same advice for you to let go of things and doing what is best for yo.
And on and on.
Do you understand what a cheese less tunnel is?
Read what I shared with you about FEAR again.

Life will continue to happen to you whether you stand frozen in analysis paralysis or take steps forward, some which maybe in error but they are forward moving regardless.
Success for you whether reconciliation and/or a stronger healthier mental and emotional state will only come if you get moving.

Think about it this way.
Would we have airplanes, automobiles, telephones, or a more free society in the world if men and women waited until the understood perfectly what they needed to do, before taking action?

Of course not. They took action, made a few mistakes, learned from it and adjusted.
Do you know what advantage you have over them?
You have been provided valuable information and support from so many that have gone through what you are going through and can help you make fewer mistakes.

What are you waiting for?
Get to doing what you know is the best course of action and stop waiting for the answer that you feel is right.
It is pretty simple. I did not say it was easy.
But you should know what to do now. You will just need to man up and go for it.

Be well today my friend. I continue to pray for you and your family. I hope you can dig deep and find the courage to do what is best long term for you and your family.