qt4,

I feel the exact same way and I have no clue how things are going to end. In two days we will have our settlement and I don't know if my wife and her lawyer want to work things out or if they just want to fight in a later trial.
I am glad that I am alive and that I am healthy and every day is a gift. I could be dead right now, I know of some men who hung themselves after getting divorced, not me, I will fight until the end.
My main focus is to protect the kids emotionally so that when they grow up they won't do the same to their families.
I have read that 66% of people who file for divorce regret it later in life and that's why I am telling you to not give up.
Your wife will come back to you when she is ready, maybe in a few years, only when she realizes the mess that she has been causing.
You are dealing with a mentally ill person right now, she is not the woman you married and not the woman you knew a few months ago.
It's like an alien has taken over her body.
Your job right now is to limit losses, emotional losses and financial losses.
Your wife will never forget you and stop thinking about you, each time she sees her children, she sees you as well, don't worry about it.
Be a rock my friend, be a mountain, be a man.