Hi G. sounds like your having a bad day mate and wondering about W kissing someone else is not going to help you improve that day
You say she loves you and your right but she's not in love with you We all get your feeling of being afraid of making the situation worse BUT right now your living in limbo and that's very unhealthy for you. W isn't living in limbo , she's got everything she wants , G doing more than he used to but she's able to live a single life and safe in the knowledge that G is there wanting to reconcile if she decides that's what she wants
I'm not a vet G and can only offer my opinion , get on with your life , I'm not trying to upset you but W could be doing anything right now and you wouldn't know
This is a long , tough journey and you are doing well but you stumble as do we all
You don't know what W wants and maybe neither does she but right now , she' doesn't want G , her reasons are her own and right or wrong she believes them
You need to accept that in Ws mind , nothing G does will change her thoughts on this ( right now ) Your not accepting your reality and clinging to hope like it's your only option
We can all repeat the same advice over and over G but only you can decide what you want to do
Move forward , live your life like she's never coming back , that doesn't mean do anything drastic but it does mean don't treat her like a W because she's decided that she's not anymore
You say do what works , is what your doing working ?
Re read sandis post on WW and WAWs and stop thinking your sitch is different because of whatever reasons you come up with
At the end of the day , W is done she no longer wants the M and is t thinking they she's married anymore The sooner you accept that the better
