She feels I'm trying to make "her people" go on "my side" How I'm over stepping boundaries she has. ... She feels I'm "too involved" and I want to know everything going on in W & D lives, and that W needs to take back control and I need to let her. ... "I know you're working on your relationship with D and me...." I need to give up control. I need to give more emotional space to her ...
I thought you were doing a pretty good job letting her go (based on what you yourself reported). What are you doing that makes her feel like you're still too involved, and over-stepping boundaries?
Originally Posted By: clearte
It seems so counter productive to step back, how will we ever reunite if she's so "fine" with out me / has everything she wants?
I struggle w/ this too but ... I think we have to let go because the W has to LOVE you, not just NEED you like she needs a plumber or an assistant.
So true Gump, so true. This is so missed in this community in the early stages of many situations. Everyone is trying to make the WAS see what they are missing. That is a need. Love is a choice. We have all heard the quote, If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were.Richard Bach It does not seem to just be a saying. There seems to be something to it, right?
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
