I want to second SH_'s advice about involving your D10 in your problems. I believe it's a very bad idea, and can have long-term psychological consequences for your D10.

Sorry. I'd be just as tempted as you to want to get info from her.

Me: 50, MLC/WW 45
Young kids
Nov 2015: BD1
Apr 2016: BD2
Jan 2017: W filed
Feb 2017: D final