ForGump, ... Surely if she wanted D so badly she would be steaming towards it? ... you are left in limbo waiting which is very unfair. Are there any 180s you could do go try and shake things up a bit?
I believe she's only slowed down by a fear of the practical (economic) consequences -- if that wasn't there, she would've found closure on this months ago. I believe she's taking her time to "get her ducks in a row" so that when the D is final, she'll have a place to land.
I am left in a limbo and it's unfair but she does not care as much about fairness right now as she does about how she feels -- I don't know if she's a WAS or WW or MLC but I believe their primary focus isn't themselves and their feelings, not the welfare of their long-term partner.
But then I have to admit the extra time I have ... I like it because it postpones the trauma that I believe we'll cause on our kids, and because I hold on to a slender reed of hope that some DB might have some effect on her.
I've been trying to GAL, do some 180's and go dim, but it's hard to do it in an intense way when living under the same roof and trying to maintain a semblance of normalcy w/ kids (they have not been told anything yet, although they are starting to sense something is going on.) Most of our exchanges have to do w/ parenting issues, although there have been a few non-parental conversations.
I'm open to suggestions for doing GAL/180/go-dim while living in the same house....
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
