Ok so from one of the talks I learned that we are asking way too much of marriage nowadays. I also learned that in order to create more desire you need more space, space and the unknown is whst creates desire. Nothing is more boring than routine. I also learned thst infidelity is way more common than I previously thought and it need not be the end of a relationship even though it does signal the end of a marriage. I got a few clarifying questions that I can ask the W if we ever get moving towards R.
What it all means is that DB is spot on with how to handle a BD. It means that I will continue to work out and get my body strong and keep watching TED talks and inspirational youtube videos, and going to Church to keep my mind and spirit strong. I will try and be more organized and more thorough in all aereas of my life (180).
Although I will have to text my W before she texts me, because my S and D's birthday is coming up this week and I don't want to buy them the same thing she does. I will do so in a way where I maintain control and don't show that I need her nor that I am angry or hurt. Just that I hope she's doing well and I need some information. Kind but not a doormat.
